tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086833995941525990.post6693317905080231911..comments2024-03-22T18:43:00.710-04:00Comments on Unam Sanctam Catholicam: "I don't care who started it..."Bonifacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10672810254075072214noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086833995941525990.post-37514947972011068692008-08-22T02:11:00.000-04:002008-08-22T02:11:00.000-04:00My mother has cautioned me NOT to make myself the ...My mother has cautioned me NOT to make myself the judge in inter-sibling squabbles because it is SO DARN DIFFICULT to apportion blame among children. Invariably the squeaky wheel gets the grease (or parental prejudices come into place) and not only is justice not done but serious resentment can build up. The theory behind punishing equally is that the innocent will put pressure on the guilty to fess up, or all parties will have greater incentive to learn to work out their differences better in the future.<BR/><BR/>And there might be a lesson there too for the really deep rooted world conflicts as well, where there is no obvious just answer since the bad blood goes back so far...<BR/><BR/>Of course, my oldest is only 3, and (thankfully!) I have no say in any international efforts, so my opinion is as yet untested in these things.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787892622804373968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086833995941525990.post-56068189498432299872008-08-21T07:54:00.000-04:002008-08-21T07:54:00.000-04:00Let's not forget that, in some cases, not only are...Let's not forget that, in some cases, not only are our parents guilty of this but those who spent time in boot camp surely remember the one guy who messed up and the rest of us paid for it. Government intervention is much the same way. You don't have to be involved, just be in the wrong place and you're guilty until proven innocent (and I don't want to hear all of the self proclaimed know it alls that will counter this. Like we used to say, "if you ain't been there then shutup.").<BR/><BR/>In the past with my children I had found that individual question and answer was effective. Kids see things from their own little part of the world (like some adults who haven't grown up yet) and with a bit of guidance the truth can be found. Most cases are just kids being kids and not understanding that asking politely can result in better reactions. Patience and listening helps a lot. When kids feel you will listen to them they begin to listen to you and respond more truthfully.<BR/><BR/>But if all else fails you will see why lions eat their young.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com